Recently I found out that the above ‘Big Boy or Small Boy’ terms I used to talk to Darrius seem to be rather confusing.
Well, for certain things or situations, he is a ‘Big Boy’ but there are also certain things or situations where he is still considered as ‘Small Boy’… in our eyes.
The ‘Big Boy or Small Boy’ confusion started a couple of months ago when I first discovered that I was pregnant with Lil’ Bun. At that time, PiggyBeng was into boomerang making so he bought some materials to start his project. Darrius being the busybody that he is, kept following behind PiggyBeng’s back trying to see what his daddy is doing. Among the materials, was a pair of scissors.
The moment Darrius saw the scissors lying on the floor unattended (PiggyBeng was busy assembling all the cardboards) he took it and had a go at it. He was of course… FASCINATED! He was happily cutting away those odds and ends of the cardboards and was very excited about his new adventure. When I saw him with the pair of scissors, I got mad but like usual, PiggyBeng the ‘spoil market’ parent, told me it is ok to let his son play for a while.
Well, to Darrius there is no ‘a while’. Once he wants to play with something… he will scream and cry if we try taking it away from him. No matter how much or how nicely I told him the particular ‘item’ is not suitable for him to play at the moment. This incident reminded me about Hui Sia’s son (also about using scissors) when he was around Darrius age two years ago.
So, I used the term ‘Small Boy’ for this incident. Well, he is still too young to handle scissors even with one that can only cut papers. Well, you must think it is ok for him to use if we are supervising him but my Darrius is different. Whenever we introduce new things to him and it is something that he can create mischief with… I tried hard not to introduce too early. Therefore, I told him he needs to be a ‘Big Boy’ of 5 years old first before he can use the scissors.
Now that we are in KL, he plays with Adrian and he tends to bully Adrian most of the time. I then told him he is a ‘Big Boy’ now and has to give in to Adrian as he is his ‘di-di’ (little brother). Darrius then asked me:
Darrius: So, I am a ‘Big Boy’ now… can I use scissors?
Me: No. You are not 5 years old yet.
Darrius: But you said I ‘Big Boy’ mah… so can use scissors lor?
So, you see… the confusion starts here.
I hate to say that I am dumbfounded. Well… it is not a good feeling being questioned back by a 3.5 years old kid, right? To Darrius, the term ‘Big Boy’ is his benchmark for using the scissors.
Now, how should I tell him?